We do not know whether people are ULTIMATELY called or not, we evangelise in the hope that all will respond.
You might be saying that you feel that you are not chosen, you cannot hear the voice of God, you do not feel attracted by Him and you think that because you feel like that now you are not ULTIMATELY chosen. But let me tell you a little about my history, when I was young I was a slave to sin, in love with the world and what it had to offer me. To everyone it looked like I was not chosen - you would swear that I was not going to heaven.
HOWEVER! Galatians 4:3-7 states that
So also, when we were children, we were in slavery under the basic principles of the world. 4 But when the time had fully come, God sent his Son, born of a woman, born under law, 5 to redeem those under law, that we might receive the full rights of sons. 6 Because you are sons, God sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, the Spirit who calls out, “Abba, Father.” 7 So you are no longer a slave, but a son; and since you are a son, God has made you also an heir.
So we see that all humans are born as slaves to sin (theological term - Original Sin), under the curse of the law and then Christ redeemed us at an appointed time. We are called, redeemed, saved from slavery and it says BECAUSE you are sons THEN God will send his Spirit into your heart. I pray God will send his spirit into your heart soon in case you turn in despair declaring you cannot be a Christian, ever. Just because you do not feel the call of God today does not mean that you are not chosen to be His child, if you, right now, decide to come to Jesus and say sorry for rejecting his offer to be your Lord and saviour and Father and then believe that He died to pay the penalty of your sin instead of you, THEN YOU ARE CHOSEN, its that simple.
God guided me to go to church when I was 20 and I felt the call, I heard the Shepherds voice (Jesus), I recognised it. I hadn't realised that Jesus Christ was my leader/Lord until I was 20! So all those years before I could not hear his voice but now I was awakened to it. So we can never say "oh this guy is going to hell" about ANYONE, ever!
So when we as Christians says that a person is not chosen, we mean at this present moment. That person might not be within the sheepfold now, we are not saying that they will never be! We are not God! He knows who will be in his Kingdom, we don't get to invite ourselves in, He has the invite list.
To support my view on this I will give two more scriptures
Galatians 6:7
7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. 8 The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.
Now we see that we have a choice in life, I am by no means doing away with accountability for our actions by being a believer in the total Sovereignity of God, of course we have repercussions for our actions. My view does not state that we do not have volition (act of the will) but our wills are guided by our environments and we are not ultimately free in our wills in that we are bound by limitations such as laws of nature and time frames and inclinations (If a man had a gun to your head and said "Your money or your life?" you are left with only two choices only, give him your money or risk loosing your life by trying to escape, you are not free to choose outside of those two!). God sets man within his boundaries and time (Acts 17:26 From one man he made every nation of men, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he determined the times set for them and the exact places where they should live.)
Charles Spurgeon calls us free moral agents. Sproul and Jonathan Edwards say that your act of will is steered by your highest motivation or strongest inclination, therefore intent is involved and we always choose according to that which benefits us the most. Your will is determined by that which motivates an action that is in your best interest. Whatever the mind deems as most desirable is that which the will choses. (Jonathan Edwards) We are faced with choices and we choose according to our strongest preference.
Now with that in mind turn to 1 John 3:9 9 No one who is born of God will continue to sin, because God’s seed remains in him; he cannot go on sinning, because he has been born of God. 10 This is how we know who the children of God are and who the children of the devil are: Anyone who does not do what is right is not a child of God; nor is anyone who does not love his brother.
Our choices are guided or steered or controlled by that which is our strongest inclination. If you are a child of God your inclination will be to please the father and therefore your act of will is in the direction of good. If you are a child of the devil then your act of will is in the direction of self pleasure. Whatever motivates us drives our choices. My motivation is to please my Father and therefore my choices are towards good. We see that WE CANNOT choose outside that which is our strongest inclination. If we love God then we are inclined to make choices that are inline with His purpose and towards that which benefits us and Him and others at the same time. And if we love the world and what it has to offer then we choose according to that which benefits us the most regardless of anyone else. Of course Christians do sin and this is the theological debate of the two natures of man versus the one but we wont get into that now.
So finally we cannot judge who will be chosen by God by looking at a person in his current state, if a person is not sowing to please the Spirit right now then he is not in his chosen state right now. This indicates that they are yet to come into the sheepfold of God, if they are in fact one of his sheep. You will respond to his voice and recognise it in time to come if you are one of his sheep. Do not be disheartened and in despair and declare that you cannot be saved. There are zero conditions for being a Christian, you cannot do good to be saved. Whether you are a Christian depends on one thing and one thing only - WILL YOU SUBMIT TO JESUS.
In regards to why we pray I say that if God is not all powerful and supremely in charge of this Universe and if we are self governing and self-determinate creatures as well as the devil being autonmous etc THEN why pray to God!? Because it is not CERTAIN that He will triumph against self governing bodies, who is to say that He will win the battle? The outcome is not certain if He does not govern everything. Think about that
